Can You Relate?
Your situation might not look like mine (it likely won't). Maybe your ego doesnât have a name, or maybe it does, but hereâs the question:
Have you ever felt that push-pull between who you are and who you think youâre supposed to be?
Maybe itâs the voice that tells you not to ask for the raise because you âshould be gratefulâ for what you already have.
Maybe itâs the hesitation to step forward with an idea because youâre afraid of getting it wrong.
Or maybe itâs the part of you that stays quiet in the meeting, smiles through the frustration, or nods along to keep the peace, all the while knowing itâs not what you want.
And letâs not forget how this shows up with other people.
- The boss whose ego blocks every good idea because it wasnât theirs.
- The friend who digs their heels in, refusing to see another perspective.
- The partner whose pride keeps them from saying, âYouâre right.â
It happens to all of usâthis delicate (or not so delicate) dance with our ego, or someone elseâs, as we try to move closer to what we truly want.
And itâs exhausting.
Because hereâs the truth: our ego isnât interested in progress or alignment. It cares about being right. About feeling safe. About staying in control.
So, what if the first step wasnât trying to convince themâor yourselfâthat youâre right?
What if the first negotiation was about letting go of the need to win?
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
Now, let me be clear: this isnât about being reckless or throwing caution to the wind.
Itâs about understanding that fear, more than anything else, is what fuels the ego.
The fear of rejection, of looking foolish, of failingâor even succeeding. Itâs all the same to your ego (and theirs) because its job is to keep you small, safe, and predictable.
So, whatâs the antidote? Facing that fear.
Thatâs what Iâm doing right now.
Writing doesnât scare me. I love it.
But letting you in? Showing you who I really am? Thatâs a whole different story.
Why? Because Nayla thrives on judgment. Not just mine, but yours too.
And I know there are plenty of other Naylas out thereâother egos ready to join in, ready to find fault or make me feel small.
And yet... here I am. Writing anyway.
Because the antidote to fear isnât avoiding it. Itâs walking straight into it.
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